Stocking stuffers – 4yr old style.

We’ve completely caved. Stick on earrings, nail polish, glamour shades and a princess crown. 

We can’t even pretend to be trying to avoid girly stuff this year – we went all in. 

Christmas is a time to celebrate a lot of things. Family, friends, good health…embracing old traditions, incorporating new ones…reflecting on the year past and looking forward to the next.

And a pinch of indulgence can’t hurt – especially for a four year old. 

And just like that, it’s Autumn.

Summer lingered, and then it was gone. Just like that.

So we made the switch to fall/winter clothes over here last weekend. A slew of long sleeves now take the spot of summer sundresses. 

Someone likes pink. And tulle. And sparkles.

We made corn bread, and butternut squash and roast chicken. We walked in the woods, leaves underfoot, wearing our coats. 

Autumn is here. 

How do you welcome the new season?

The good in girly

I have a 3.5yr old daughter. She loves pink. She loves sparkles. She loves dresses, and most especially dresses that go all the way down to her toes – like a princess! 

I have spent the past 3.5yrs trying not to cringe when she asks for another necklace to wear, another sparkly headband or crown. 

I would rather she go play in the dirt. Focus less on being “beautiful” and more on being strong.

In essence, I have spent the past 3.5yrs trying to guide her away from being “girly”. 

But this morning, I read an article by Kristen Bell which has given me pause. In it, she asks, “why is being girly a negative adjective?”.

Kristen Bell starts by making the controversial statement, that men and women are not equal.  Should we have equal power? Yes. Should we have equal opportunity? Yes. But are we the same? No.

“There are differences – inherent and unwavering differences. For the majority of the human timeline, these differences were openly viewed as female weaknesses; crating a chasm between men and women.”

“I’d like to add my voice to so many voices who have chosen to flip the narrative and see these disparities as beautiful, unconquerable and inspiring.”

Bell argues:

“This ever-long journey toward equality demands that we, as females, actually embrace our inequalities and value them as superpowers.”

So today, I embrace my daughter’s girly-ness. I embrace her sensitivity, her astounding empathy. She is thoughtful, caring, intuitive.

She can sense if one person in a room full of adults is not happy. And then, she thinks up creative suggestions to help.

She is also strong. And aggressively protective of her little sister. She is brave, and I know this because she can articulate when she is feeling scared to do something, and yet she gets up and does it anyways.

She is my girl. My girly girl. And this weekend we will put on our sparkly princess crowns in all of our girly glory, and play in the dirt.