The focus, the joy, the creative energy, the excitement that comes over her when she paints – it is just so satisfying to witness.
And she is good at it. In a 3-year-old sort of way. At least I think she is – though I’m her parent, so obviously biased.
I try not to tell her that though. Instead, I tell her just how much I love to watch her paint, watch her create, watch her focus and do something that she loves.
In this article, college athletes were asked what their parents said that made them feel great, that amplified their joy during and after a ballgame.
Their overwhelming response: “I love to watch you play.”
There is a subtle, but important, shift in focus here – away from emphasizing how “good” our kids are at something, to instead focus more importantly on the fact that they are learning, growing, focusing, following a passion, working through something challenging, etc.
And so I say, I love to watch you paint, play, climb, try something new, challenge yourself, and be utterly and always my amazing little lady.